Helping without expectation

I know at some point we’ve all been there, when you're at the bottom and no one cares, or when certain people reach out and you're thankful for it. We just look it over, and we think, they’re just really nice people. But.. that help comes from God.

Are you the same way when someone else is in a bad spot? Are we thankful for the person that reached out to us and try to return the favor, or are we just thinking about what we are going to get in return?

People don’t like to ask for help from someone because they feel they will owe someone something. As a society everyone wants to feel like they are a good person, like they help others, but ask yourself this question: “When I reach out to someone, and help them, whether it be financially, to talk, to be there as a friend, do I automatically expect something in return, or feel that I can hold this over their head if I feel I need something in the future from them?”

If that’s the case, was the real reason you helped them, out of the kindness of your heart, or was it so that you could go back to them later to return the favor? One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want. Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered. Proverbs 11:24-25 ESV

A Person that Gives Without Expectation Has Many Friends
We may associate certain people with being lucky, because they have so many people that want to reach out to them, in their low times and even when they’re doing well. They want to be there for them, they want to be around them, they want to be helpful to them. And people think they’re so lucky they have great friends. But usually the real reason behind that is because that person has a good heart and has probably reached out to those people at some point in their lives and been there for them, whether it’s just to talk, be understanding and comforting. It doesn’t always have to be about finances.

Are you Afraid to help others?
We understand some people may not want to help others for fear of being taken advantage of (again). This comes from past situations that might have hurt you when your intentions to help were genuine. You may have good reason not to help certain people, but others that truly need it may miss out on what God had intended for you to help them with. So how do you tell when to help, and when not to?

God gives you the wisdom to not put yourself in a position where you could be in danger. God gives you the common sense to know not to put yourself in a bad situation.

The most important part of this blog is to know God. because when you know God he will put in your heart who to reach out to and who is taking advantage.
This has to do with not only a stranger in the street that you pass by, but with your friends and family, with your co-workers, with any acquaintances that you know. When you put God first, all of your interactions and reactions, will be guided and you will know who to help and who not to help: Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you - Matthew 7:6.   

You will be able to discern the difference by keeping God first in your life. Your actions will be full of God’s love, integrity and wisdom which will strengthen all of your relationships and help those around you to see the love of God through you.
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It’s important to know the difference between helping your enemies, and not helping those who cannot be helped. Pray to God for this understanding before you make your final decisions to cut off ties, or to not speak with someone anymore. Everyone deserves a chance. You could be the one person that God had intended to help change a life, or bring that person closer to God.