#1 - READ HIS WORD: Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in your mother’s womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart. Hebrew 4:12 “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any two edge sword. It penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It judges through the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.”
Stephanie and Peter were childhood pen pals from different countries through an elementary school program. They never saw or met each other, only wrote letters to each. Over the years, they fell in love through their letters, within each page, learning and revealing their teenage thoughts and darkest secrets, from school dramas to parental problems and more.
Mary chose a GI soldier’s mailing address (Alvin) to write letters of hope while he was in the war. They wrote to each other through the years, having never met. Mary says “You can say it was love at first write” They met, got married and had a daughter.
There are many more stories like this, where people wrote to each other, and learned about each other through their words and letters. Sharing in detail, who they are, what they’ve experienced and gone through, and have either fallen in love or became best friends.
The written word is a powerful connector for anyone. You can get to know someone through just the written word, and not have to see them physically in front of you.
Just like these couples, God left us love letters. A written word called The Bible. He is waiting for you to pick up his book, and read his words of love, wisdom and guidance - through all of the stories and experiences he shares about himself and about his children. You will find a story on any topic you need help with. To get to know God, the first thing you can do is - Read his word
#2 - LIVE IN HIS WILL Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you”, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” A woman named Linsday, weighed 220 pounds at 5’ 4” and was comfortable sitting on the couch and eating anything she wanted. Then she decided to change her habits and start living. For one year, she started to wake up each morning at 5:45am, ate a fiber rich breakfast and walked on the treadmill for one hour. She lost 40 pounds. She moved in with another woman who encouraged her healthy habits, started weight training, and lost another 35 pounds. She now weighs 145, is at a very healthy weight and is happy.
Jim Carrey talks about his father in a speech to college students, and how his father stayed in a comfort zone at his job, and after 20 years was fired. He said “Why fail at something you hate, when you can fail at something you love”.
So many people take the safe route and stay in a comfort zone that isn’t giving them fulfillment, and is only getting them by. If you break out of the comfort zone, and use your will to do something you love, you could possibly change your life and the direction it’s going.
We form our own habits of what we want and need in our lives. And those habits tend to be our most immediate wants and desires out of our current circumstances. “I need more money, I need another job, I need to get married, etc..”
God sees the whole picture, where we see only what we think we need in the immediate. We can trust in God’s plan for us, and know it is bigger than we can imagine. By getting to know God through his word, he will let us know in our heart what his will is for our lives. His will is our heart’s desire, for he made us, each with a unique purpose. Living in his will, will provide you more than you can imagine today.
#3 - GOD’s REWARDS FOR YOUR LOVE James 1:12 “Blessed in the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.”
We’re sure you are familiar with the countless stories of celebrities that gained everything in this world, from money to fame, riches and wealth, when in the end, they took their own life because they were so unhappy.
Many of us have followed these same celebrities, buying the things they advertise, thinking it will help fulfill our lives, just like they portray it will. When in truth, it doesn’t. Having a comfortable home, and being able to share your gifts to help others is a blessing. God wants good for our lives in a way that is truly good, and not a false promise or comfort.
By getting close to God, you will gain PEACE, GUIDANCE and STRENGTH
PEACE - through the knowledge that he is always there for you and will never give you more than you can handle.
GUIDANCE - through his word and through his will for you, knowing how to navigate through challenging moments, and finding what actually makes you happy.
STRENGTH - to endure and go through obstacles that may come upon you through your journey towards happiness, knowing God is there by your side through it all.
By reading God’s word, living in his will, and enjoying the rewards of his love, you will start a relationship with God that gives you understanding of a deeper love, a more committed relationship, and a peace you’ve never felt before.
Try these three tips. We’d love to know your personal journey towards having a closer relationship with God.
He is waiting for you.
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I know at some point we’ve all been there, when you're at the bottom and no one cares, or when certain people reach out and you're thankful for it. We just look it over, and we think, they’re just really nice people. But.. that help comes from God.
Are you the same way when someone else is in a bad spot? Are we thankful for the person that reached out to us and try to return the favor, or are we just thinking about what we are going to get in return?
People don’t like to ask for help from someone because they feel they will owe someone something. As a society everyone wants to feel like they are a good person, like they help others, but ask yourself this question: “When I reach out to someone, and help them, whether it be financially, to talk, to be there as a friend, do I automatically expect something in return, or feel that I can hold this over their head if I feel I need something in the future from them?”
If that’s the case, was the real reason you helped them, out of the kindness of your heart, or was it so that you could go back to them later to return the favor? One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want. Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered. Proverbs 11:24-25 ESV
A Person that Gives Without Expectation Has Many Friends We may associate certain people with being lucky, because they have so many people that want to reach out to them, in their low times and even when they’re doing well. They want to be there for them, they want to be around them, they want to be helpful to them. And people think they’re so lucky they have great friends. But usually the real reason behind that is because that person has a good heart and has probably reached out to those people at some point in their lives and been there for them, whether it’s just to talk, be understanding and comforting. It doesn’t always have to be about finances.
Are you Afraid to help others? We understand some people may not want to help others for fear of being taken advantage of (again). This comes from past situations that might have hurt you when your intentions to help were genuine. You may have good reason not to help certain people, but others that truly need it may miss out on what God had intended for you to help them with. So how do you tell when to help, and when not to?
God gives you the wisdom to not put yourself in a position where you could be in danger. God gives you the common sense to know not to put yourself in a bad situation.
The most important part of this blog is to know God. because when you know God he will put in your heart who to reach out to and who is taking advantage. This has to do with not only a stranger in the street that you pass by, but with your friends and family, with your co-workers, with any acquaintances that you know. When you put God first, all of your interactions and reactions, will be guided and you will know who to help and who not to help: Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy.Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you - Matthew 7:6.
You will be able to discern the difference by keeping God first in your life. Your actions will be full of God’s love, integrity and wisdom which will strengthen all of your relationships and help those around you to see the love of God through you. It’s important to know the difference between helping your enemies, and not helping those who cannot be helped. Pray to God for this understanding before you make your final decisions to cut off ties, or to not speak with someone anymore. Everyone deserves a chance. You could be the one person that God had intended to help change a life, or bring that person closer to God.
Everyone Makes Mistakes. Everybody in this world makes mistakes. Even into adulthood they make mistakes and it's a natural thing, we're human and we make mistakes. The only one that has the authority to judge those mistakes and what we've done about them, is God and Jesus Christ.
Every Sin, Poor Action and Reaction Causes God Pain. Because he desires for us to do his will, and when we sin, we're going against his will. Whether it’s a "little white lie" to causing physical harm to someone, stealing, judging another person, thinking bad thoughts about others, gossiping, mocking, even if you do these things in the privacy of your own home it doesn’t make it right. All of these actions are sins and cause God pain. Everyone one of these harden and darken our soul, and build a wall between us and God.
You May Not Even Realize You've Made a Mistake or that you're doing something wrong. But you can realize it now. The world invites you and encourages you to continue these wrong behaviors, wrong opinions, wrong ideals or values that you have been taught or learned to believe are socially acceptable, but is it acceptable to God? It may be accepted by your friends and family who could be caught up in this world, and so you just settle, seeking the love from your family and friends, continuing to do what they feel is acceptable, thinking it’s ok in the moment because this is “how it is in my circle or with my family”, not even realizing that you might be hurting someone else.
You Have Free Will To Understand and Change We are all connected, even our thoughts, and every positive action you take can and will effect another, which in turn will effect another, and so is the effect of our free will. It is our choice to think in this worldly manner, or go get to know God and understand how he wants us to think and how he wants us to act towards one another.
You Have a Choice To Live a Better Life. We have a choice to repent of our Sin, to make amends for what we've done wrong and to change how we think, and start thinking in God's will. If you put God first, any evil thought in this world doesn't come from you. If it's out of anger, hatred, frustration, past hurt, none of it comes from God. When we hold onto those emotions and feelings, and when we continue to react and act on those feelings, we are doing the exact opposite of God's will. God expects us to slip and fall, but he also expects us to learn from the negative actions we've made and not continue making them.
Seek God and All You Need Will Be Provided When we make anything on this earth more important than God such as monetary, objects or other people for our own wants and desires, we push ourselves further away from the love and purpose he has for us. He will give you everything you need. You should seek God and not seek things, because God will open doors for opportunities that may not have existed if you followed your will instead of God’s. It’s not as simple as just asking God for what you want. You have to do what God wants you to do in your life, and seek understanding for what God wills you to do, to help other people, through prayer. And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him. (Heb. 11:6)
The love and acceptance you seek from your immediate friends and family may seem unsatisfying without God in the center of it. If you seek God’s love first, then all other needs will come. All you need with family, friends and anything else you need in this world to live will be provided for.
God Wants You To Come To Him On Your Own. You can't force someone to tell you that you love them. If you are in a relationship, you don't want to tell the person "Tell me you love me today..." you want that person to tell you on their own. as God wants you to come to him on your own, and let him know that you love him. Because he is waiting for you, because he always has and always will love you, and will continue to tell you that he loves you, no matter what, but he needs you to come to him on your own. And then you can start to build a relationship with God, like you have never had before.
People Misunderstand God. They think he's this great powerful being that's unreachable but he's their waiting, he's there loving us no matter what we do, as long as we choose him as he has chosen us, and we stop our transgressions. There is still time, he is waiting. People go through hardships in life, or they have bad things happen to them, and they feel like God has failed them but what we don't realize is, we are failing God, Because of the choices we make in our lives, the people we choose to surround ourselves with, or what we choose to make important in our lives, or if we choose to be good loving nurturing people or to be judgmental, disrespectful, or dishonorable people.
God Wants Only Good For Us There are bad things that happen on this earth, but it's not from God. God wants all good for us. We, with our free will, choose the opposite of what God is asking for us to do with our lives, and in the process of that, we bring on our own mistakes, our own pain, for things that we do, choices we make. Whether it's someone who is drinking and driving, someone who starts taking drugs, or someone who chooses to be in a bad relationship, all of these choices are choices that we freely make. We can choose to be with God, loving people who are living a good healthy life in God's will. When you get close to God he gives you the discernment to know who these people are, and to protect you.
There are perfectly sane people in this world that come upon desperate situations and make bad choices. And those bad choices can effect others, even complete strangers, by mental or physical anguish, or even death. But these choices are not of God, it is from these other individuals because they did not have faith in God that he would provide for them, they did not have faith to know his will or to even know who God is. But you can choose God, and know he will help you during those desperate times.
God Protects You I'm sure you can think of a time in your life where you decided not to drive down a certain road, not to make that phone call, not to take that trip. I'm sure there are situations in your life where you thought "that was close". What people fail to realize is, that was God helping to save you from that next mistake.
I'm sure there's a lot of people that will read this and think, "why did God let these other things happen" there's decisions that other people make that unfortunately effect us, whether it's a doctor who doesn't follow up with a cancer patient and the cancer comes back, or a person that gets desperate for money and decides to steal, rob a bank, and has a weapon and someone gets caught in the crossfire. It may have not been the innocent person's choice, but it was the other person's choice to do wrong. We can't stop people around us from making bad choices, but the closer we get to God, the more he'll let us know when those situations come around to keep us from them.
We Can Help Each Other If more of us get closer with God, then the easier it will be to choose the good path, and have good around us here in this world. Because in God’s will, we choose the good decisions over the bad mistakes. In doing so, it brings us closer to God, it brings us peace, and it allows God to provide comfort and opportunities because we have chosen his will. So what will you choose?
Heaven now and later Have you ever wondered about Heaven, if there is a heaven and if you will be going there? You see it on T.V, in movies, you’ve probably heard friends and even family members talk about it. But do you believe it? If there is a heaven, if in your heart you want to believe there is a place you can go to be with God, and to be with your long lost loved ones, then how can you get there, be there and feel in peace about there being a heaven?
Think about why you feel good when you do good in this world. Think about why you feel good when someone thanks you, or when someone smiles or laughs because of something you’ve said that made them feel this good feeling. You have the ability to bring joy to others, to bring peace to yourself, now and later.
We’d like to share a very powerful fact that is explained in the bible, and that will help you understand how your acts of kindness here on earth will help you be closer with God.
We are all priceless in Jesus’s eyes. Imagine us as a golden nugget that has just been found, and he’s refining us, carefully protected through the fire. Our trials and tests of faith here on earth bring us through the fire. In the end, once we are purified, by “good deeds” by the trials, by keeping our faith, and walking in his will, we become such a beautiful pure gold that glitters and shines, representing his light.
The Purification Process I’m sure you’ve heard before that when you’re under pressure, is when your true self comes through. That is what Jesus wants for us. To have our true selves shine through any impurities that have come from worldly corruption. Imagine a piece of gold when it’s found in it’s roughest form, dirt, sand, pieces of rock, and you can see the gold there, but it's not glowing it's not very shiny.
Your trials by fire will remove the impurities, and inconsistencies, so that when Jesus arrives you will be honoring and glorifying him by what you’ve gone through.
Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice in so far as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed. 1 Peter 4:12-13 ESV
Pure Gold vs. Fool’s Gold Fools gold is known as Pyrite. It looks gold but it’s not real gold. It might be shiny, it might look valuable, but in the end it’s worth nothing.
The gold on this earth is referring to any monetary gain that you make your main purpose. When you make money your goal in life, it’s a fools gold and the riches bring you nowhere.
In the end you have a bunch of things, but have accumulated no real wealth. Every good deed adds up.
You may find some comfort, some false friends because they are attracted to the “things” but wouldn’t you prefer that your spouse loves you for who you are and not for what you have, and that your friends are there for you no matter what and not when you’ve received the next new thing.
When you get entangled in this world and what it has to offer, you get lost in this web of lies and deceit, and In the end you have a bunch of things, but have accumulated no real wealth. You begin to lose sight of what you initially wanted in the first place, which is true peace and happiness.
As for the rich in this present age, charge them not to be haughty, nor to set their hopes on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly provides us with everything to enjoy. They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share, thus storing up treasure for themselves as a good foundation for the future, so that they may take hold of that which is truly life. 1 Timothy 6:17-19
Your Good Deeds Your good deeds purify your gold in heaven. The more good deeds you do, the more pure your gold becomes. We are the Lord’s gold, and sometimes we have to go through the fire to be purified, but we come out gleaming, when we keep our faith, the light of christ shines through us brighter than you can ever imagine, and his peace dwells within us.
Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me. Matthew 25:40; NIV
Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. Mathew 6:1 NIV
You can have all of the faith in the Lord, but without acting upon your belief, it is not helping anyone, not even yourself.
Your Personal ‘Happiness’ Bank Account You have an opportunity to deposit and withdraw happiness each and every day from the choices you have whenever you interact with someone else. No matter how big or small, your words and actions can be a withdrawal from your account by saying a negative comment, or making bad decision. You can have a deposit into your account, by picking up the trash, or helping a stranger across the street.
When it’s time to go, you'll never see a moving van behind a hertz. You don’t take anything with you when you leave here, except the relationships and good deeds you have built. And most of all, your good deeds can earn you your treasures, waiting for you in heaven, that will allow you to step through those gates.
God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them. Hebrews 6:10
All of your efforts will be worth more than you know. Every effort of righteousness is a deposit into your everlasting happiness account.
The minimal amount of time that we spend on this earth is nothing compared to the eternity waiting for us in Heaven.
GET TO KNOW GOD + UNDERSTAND HIS WORD & PROMISE = PEACE
Have you ever had moments in your life where you’ve asked yourself “What am I doing here? What is my purpose? The unrest you feel, any anxiety or restlessness you may have, can all be answered through the wisdom and knowledge you gain by getting to know Jesus and God.
The Bible Is Our Helpful Guide For example; I’m sure that everyone has a family member that has ordered a complicated piece of furniture, or a toy, or even a car part that they tried to put on or put together themselves, without reading the directions. And they wind up with 12 random pieces left, and a part that doesn’t work, or at the end it doesn’t look like the picture, and they say “what the heck just happened?” That’s like trying to get to know God without reading the bible.
We pray when we don’t know what to pray for. We live, when we don’t know how to live according to what he wants us to do. It’s all right there in the bible, explained. And in the end, we look and say, “what the heck just happened”?
When our life is a mess, or when we’re in a bad relationship or bad situation, we don’t understand, but if we only would have read the manual, it would have explained exactly how we can fulfill our individual purpose intended for us by God, and find that true peace in our life.
The bible (the old and new testament) is full of every scenario possible, the good and the bad, in order to help guide you on the right way to react, act and live in order to reach your full destiny.
Get To Know God God is waiting for you. He wants you to know that he’s always here, waiting for you to get to know him. The bible is an introduction to God.
If you’ve never met someone before, and they’re not physically in your state or even in your country, the only way to get to know them, is by talking to them, or by texting them, or by emailing them back and forth.
So if that person doesn’t have a video camera on their computer, or on their cell phone, and you have to text back and forth, the only way to get to know about them is reading their texts, or reading their emails.
That’s God’s text and email for you. Throughout history, with each person in scripture that heard his word, God was reaching out to make sure that who he is, through his word, would be heard, read, and understood. It is an introduction on how to get to know him, how to navigate through this life and all of life’s situations, and to get to know the path he always had intended for you.
Find Your Permanent Peace Real joy is knowing that God has your back 24/7. Real joy is knowing that his word protects and defends you.
We are always looking for that perfect vacation spot to get away from the craziness, hustle and bustle. Then you think you found the perfect vacation spot, and you go there and it’s beautiful. It’s a little bit of tranquility, but it doesn’t last. Soon you are on a plane back to your day to day.
Jesus Christ lasts. When you get peace through Jesus Christ, it’s a constant, even during the crisis, you will feel peace through Jesus Christ.
You might even get a temporary peace through a massage or from watching a movie; it’s a minimal quick fix. The only permanent fix, the only permanent way to feel a peacefulness every day and every night, is knowing that he’ll bring you through it. Once you get to know the power of his word, and how his word can help you, then you’ll want to get that peace through him.
Learn His Word “Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him.”Proverbs 30:5 KJV
Get to know God, read his words. His word is his blessing for you. His word is spiritual food for your soul that will explain your comings and goings, your beginnings and your endings, in a way that will guide you in all things. It is up to you to decide, you were given free will, and this is your time to make up your mind what you will do. Will you get to know God? Will you continue to look the other way and live in this world? Getting to know God should not be controversial. It is simple. Either yes or no. Man complicates all things. There is no grey area here. God is here, waiting for you. You will feel it in your heart. You will hear him speak to you through your heart, and you will know.
If you’re too afraid to even open the bible up because of what people think, or you are too afraid to get to know God because of what people may say, then you’re allowing them to steal your right of free will, to learn and understand God’s word. And by doing so, denies you the ability to have Grace from God.
God’s word is a powerful sword that both protects and defends us.It is his gift of armour for us to live in this world. It says in Ephesians 6:17 that the word of God is your sword. “Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.” NLT
And in turn, we are from God, and our words have power in them too, if we give our trust to the Lord, and when we speak, if our heart genuinely believes what we are saying, then our words will hold true. What you choose to think and express to people each day, has a lasting effect when you leave the room. It can either uplift and motivate, or push down and defeat someone. Those words leave behind a trail of either righteousness or deceitfulness, and God allowed us to have that free will to choose which path we want to follow.
God’s word created the universe - so why not read his word and understand the power he’s graced on you;
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not anything made that was made.John 1:1-3
For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. HEBREWS 4:12
Stop Making God Wait Imagine I’m sure there’s people out there with kids, and you want the best for your children. And you see them continually making mistakes finding the wrong people to hang out with, making bad decisions in their life that causes them to not have peace in their life, that causes them friction, or problems, or lands them the wrong job etc. Overextending themselves monetarily, whatever it is, you want your child to have peace, so you want to give them your opinions on how they can find a better person, a better job, a better way to use their finances, and that helps somewhat, but you’re their parent and that’s what you want, you want the best for them.
God is our parent and wants the best for us. The peace he gives us is everlasting. It’s not a temporary fix until the next problem comes up, it’s everlasting.
He’s Waiting For You He’s sitting there. Jesus is standing behind that door, shaking his head, thinking to himself;
“How much more frustrated do you have to get? How much harder does your life have to get? How many more wrong people do you have to go out with? How many more wrong decisions do you have to make? How desperate do you have to be to finally open this door and come to me?”
Just like parents, or your spouse, or anyone that loves you, Jesus wants you to have peace in your life, and he has the only way to give you that peace in a permanent way.
He Will Guide You He will guide you to the jobs you’re supposed to be at. He will guide you to the places you’re supposed to live, the people you’re supposed to be with, and as long as you continue to do what he wills you to do in your life, you may not be rich in worldly things, but you’ll be rich in peace, in love and in joy.
It’s Up To You; You Have To Open A Door To Let Him In
"Look! I stand at the door and knock. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in, and we will share a meal together as friends”. Revelation 3:20 NLT
Each one of us has a choice to walk away, or to get to know God. No one is forcing anyone to get to know God. It needs to come from your own heart.
God wants you to learn him on your own, if you want to know him. Just like a parent wants their child to love them, God wants us to love him, on our own, our free will to choose to love him, which in turn, will bring us the peace we long for every day.
So what will you choose to do? Because in the end, the choice is yours. Just know that God and Jesus are always there, waiting for you.
In the last few days, we had several topics that we’ve talked about during breakfast that God has put in our heart, and it was hard for us to decide which topic to use today. One of the reasons why we went with this topic of forgiveness, is because it came up during a radio interview we were recently on, and we felt it would be a good topic to bring up and discuss with all of you today.
To Forgive and to Truly Forget helps you live Better Do you know how many people are out there that haven’t forgiven, or are holding a grudge? Do you know what that does to you emotionally and physically? To not Forgive: Not being able to forgive and move forward. To not Be Forgiven: not being able to admit when you’re wrong and grow past it. These things start to weigh you down.
Let’s talk about forgiving someone first.
Spiritual Strength through Forgiveness Brings you Closer to God; We understand it can be hard to forgive someone, because you might be afraid that person will do the same thing again to hurt you. But, there is a difference between being cautious and protective vs forgiving and getting over the situation. When you choose cautiousness by not forgiving, you are isolating yourself. You are building a wall that stunts your spiritual growth and the more of a wall you build around yourself, by holding onto the past, holding onto the hurt, the less you grow spiritually and the further away from God you become. When you forgive, that forgiveness brings you spiritual growth, and the spiritual growth brings you closer to God. This is when the gifts of spiritual discernment are given to you, which each Godly choice you make, helps to protect and guide you in the right path.
The Candle; If I burn my finger on a candle, I’ll know not to burn my finger again. I’m not going to get angry at the candle, and then every time I light ANY candle think, “this damn candle is going to burn my finger again”. If I hold every candle to the same standard, that it’s going to burn my finger if I light it, without sticking my finger in it, then I’m never going to have light in the dark, unless I have a flashlight or artificial light, so I will be the one missing out. Because I have a preconceived notion that, that candle, or even every candle, is going to burn my finger. The same applies in your relationships. How can you enjoy the light of a person without getting burned? You realize nobody on this earth is perfect. We all make mistakes. We all say and do things that may hurt someone. We have to make a conscious choice to be the bigger person, to love and get past it, or to hold onto it, and let it fester.
Your Invisible BackPack; Imagine throughout your life, you have an invisible backpack on. This backpack holds all of the memories that weigh you down. a giant 50 pound burden on my back that weighs me down. Anytime you catalog in your mind, when someone does something wrong to you, what you’re doing is throwing a pebble in your backpack to use later. This person said something that hurt my feelings, so another pebble gets thrown in. This person lied to me, this person hurt me etc. 100s of pebbles. Eventually, you have this heavy weight of a backpack holding you down and it becomes so hard to carry, with all of the things you held onto that you couldn’t forgive, or forget, or you couldn’t get past. In fact, there is no room for you to hold onto the good things. Who you’re really hurting by carrying all of this, is yourself. When we hold onto the hurt, we’re hurting ourselves. When you hold onto negative feelings, it creates stress, and affects your blood pressure, and your health.
Wouldn’t you rather have a backpack full of happy memories, and useful tools that help you along your journey of life? Forgiveness, as well as Asking for Forgiveness, helps you to unpack the bad, and make room for the good that God has waiting for you.
God says… “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”Matthew 11:28-30 New International Version (NIV)
Stop carrying guilt, anger, hurt, frustration, resentment, and give that to God. Say out loud to God during your prayer, to take these all away from you. To give them all to him, and he will hear you.
Saying you Forgive, vs. Truly Forgiving; You can say you forgive somebody, but if you let it continue to impact you in a negative way, then have you really forgiven them? When someone else accidently says or does the same thing you forgave someone else for, does it remind you of the initial hurt, and make you act or react differently? So then you realize, you truly haven’t let it go, or forgiven them. Just remember the candle, and reach your hand out with the new understanding of HOW to light the candle, and your relationships will grow from that.
It’s NOT ABOUT Teaching That Person A Lesson; People may think; “If I hold onto the anger, that person will learn their lesson.”or “If I stay angry, I’ll teach that person by being angry at them and they’ll see how horrible of a person they are!” It actually hurts you more than you believe you are hurting that other person. We can not make people learn lessons. We are not God. People are going to have their own choices in life. We have a choice ourselves. We can hold onto the anger, and have the misconception that, that person is going to learn their lesson that way, when 90% of the time the person doesn’t realize or care, and that’s not going to affect their decision making in their life. All you’ve done is burden yourself.
Forgive Others As God Has Forgiven Us; God Says: "I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions for my own sake; and I will not remember your sins." Isaiah 43:25 WEB
You see, God will not determine his future relationship with us, based on the bad acts or decisions we have made in our past. God wants to be in your life, every day, in your daily decisions and how you live your life. And so, if you were to think of how God would handle your situation, before you act or react, then remember how his mercy and grace has forgiven us, and moves on. Even before God gave us his son, he had forgiven us, because of his love for us.
Forgive how God Forgave us, and how Jesus Forgave us You know when we speak of Forgiveness, we need to discuss Jesus. Jesus Christ went around and preached the word of God, and tried to introduce God to people. That’s all he did. He went with his disciples to help people. He did nothing against man, he did nothing to try to hurt man, all he did was preach God’s word of love and peace and hope. And yet his own people turned on him, judged him, condemned him to death, whipped him, punched him, kicked him, spit on him, stuck a crown of thorns in his head, nailed him to a cross, and pierced his side, because they didn’t believe in what he was saying. And yet, one of the last things he said to God was ‘Forgive them father, for they know not what they do.” Even after going through all of that, he still forgave us.
So who are we, to hold a grudge against anyone, or hold anger against anyone. How can we justify holding that anger against them, and not forgive them when Jesus forgave us after all the things we did to him. Especially when it comes to petty things, hurtful words, hurtful actions, or things you don’t like. These weren’t physical attacks, that didn’t do permanent damage, but holding onto that does do permanent damage. It causes stress, it causes physical harm to yourself.
Why should I forgive? How can I be forgiven? What should I do now? So we ask you, as you read this, for some of you, it might be easier to open your heart to forgive, and to be forgiven today. You might have received a message in this blog that will help you today. For others, you may not believe or understand how you can forgive someone who did something to you, or against you, and it is hard for you at this time. But all we ask, is to sit in the silence with God, and pray to him. Ask him for guidance on how to forgive. Ask him for guidance on why you should forgive. Ask him to take away your burdens, to take away your pain. All we ask is for you to start to have that conversation with God, and ask him to not only help you forgive, but to also be forgiven. Build that relationship with God, and you will see he is always there with you, to help you build your relationship with others, and help you stand strong and be wise, in peace and love, in this world.